my bad but....

Ok, I know I have not been here in awhile but I just wanted to share this little picture and say my peace about it.

this is a scripture from the Bible. This is proof that the Bible was created by men who thought women were beneath them. There are several that still think that to this day. This crap is exactly why I am proud to say I am a pagan in my spiritual beliefs. Christians willingly read things like this (picture above) and will say that God is love. They actually think that it is their fault and that it was right to punish them. 

I will tell you that it is not right and that if God really loved everyone as equal as every Christian claims then he would not allow us to go through so much pain especially as punishment.

Enough said

Hi

I know that I have not been on here in an entire year. But at the same time I have been watching these videos on YouTube about how women should, to put it simply, bow down to their man. How we as women should change first and please them first. 

My first thought was this: if we change ourselves first and are always the ones who go after the men first then eventually they will stop trying. They will not even make an effort to change if we are always doing it. 

If a man wants something about his home to change then he should look at the things himself does within said household and how he treats his wife. Because let me tell you, most of the time, it is usually the men who are causing the distress.

They set poor examples for the children usually and they never and I mean never help out with the household chores  or help take care of the children.

Now there are some good men and some very shitty women but this post is about every single piece of media that is trying to brainfeed you the idea that you mean nothing without your man. That you need to do everything for him because that is all you are ever put on this earth for.  

IT IS NOT TRUE.

DO NOT BELIEVE ANY OF IT

ridiculous shit

Ok, buying all the toilet paper won't save you from the virus. Keeping your hands washed, however, will!  All of you buying up all the baby wipes just so babies can't have any available to wipe their asses. You all are just selfish bunch of pricks. I mean really. LEAVE SOME FOR THE REST OF US YOU SELFISH BASTARDS!!!!

Times like this...

It is at times like this where I think my kids want to sabotage me. My oldest and my husband are both asleep right now. My youngest was asleep until he raised enough hell that after two bottles, I just said "fuck it" and got up with him. Now after sitting here with him playing in the playpen for an hour, he is laying over like he's trying to go back to sleep. I swear all this has to do with the full moon and the fact that they have glaucoma. (My husband, oldest and youngest son all have it) my only major problem with this is that I cannot keep switching up my own sleep schedule because it can lead to another major seizure. (I have epilepsy) 
I just wish they would get it together. I'm trying not to be my parents and make them get up at certain times and make them go to bed at certain times every single night. I hated it so much and my husband says he hated it as well so we try not to do the same to our kids but I am starting to swear that maybe they do need it. I can't handle another major seizure that will put me out of driving for about a month. Seeing as how I am the only licensed driver in my household. We cannot afford to stay at home like that.

Fuck my life......

Moms.....

I know I have felt this way but has anyone ever felt like they just want to give up? There is just so much work and stress into creating and melding little humans, not to mention just being a woman nowadays. We as women have always been looked down upon for a very very long time and it's ridiculous. Without us, there would be no men in the world.without us, who would be there to be the supporter and make the egos of men that much bigger?
Women are seen as weak but there are different kinds of being strong. It isn't always pure muscle. After all, if child birth was so easy then men would have that ability not women. Let's all try to look past the stereotypes and just get along!

Why?

Why...just why!!!!!!
Men always have this crazy notion that they are above housecleaning and that it's the "women's job". I call this complete bullshit.
Yes, I said it. Complete and total bullshit. If you make a mess and you are old enough and capable enough then your ass needs to be picking it up and cleaning it up. Men, you wonder why women want to be gay and lesbians? Well, it's probably because you drove us to that by your caveman ways. Think about it!

Can I?

I just want to be seriously clear when I say that I have had enough! Every day, day in and day out....no rest. No fucks given. Not a single care in this entire home.
Has anyone else felt this way? Have you felt like you have been stressed for no reason?
Join me in saying it loud and proud:
I DO NOT GIVE A SINGLE FUCK ANYMORE!!!!!!!
*deep breath*
Ok, now I feel better

YouTube Moms

I know that in my generation that we can have examples of being a mom on youtube and other social media platforms. But there is one thing to consider is that, we only get to see their video side. The smile they pose for the camera,usually. We don't see the all nighters due to ill babies or the getting into discipline mode. And alot of the tips they provide are great BUT you have to adapt the tips to fit your family.
What works for their children may or may not work for mine (or yours) and that's ok. Not every child is the same. Now if only we can convince the government and the school systems of this, we would be in business!

Education

As a society, we have gotten it in our heads that in order to be smart you have got to have at least one college degree. Not exactly sure when this all started but to be quite honest; I personally think that's bullshit. Education can mean so many different things. There are people who can hack and fix everything technical but can't even cook or bake. And then there are those who can garden and cook but do not know very much in the technical field.
Being smart is a good thing but it's also good to be well rounded and to have experience in everything. Everyone should know at least the basics of cooking and basics of growing a garden and how to fix a small problem with their cars.
Our society has a problem when those that work in the fast food industry demand a higher pay raise then those that work in these car part factories. I do not know how many times I have heard friends complain about being overworked and not paid enough in these factories also people in the fast food places have gotten my order wrong so many times that it's ridiculous. They do not need $15 an hour. Especially if they can't fix a freaking hamburger right.
Not to mention the attitudes that they give people when told they did something wrong. Now is it wrong for the public to take advantage and be rude to them? Yes, it is. But at the same time when you work in a public job like that, you cannot expect too much.

The ones who should get the most credit but get it the least and all while not even getting paid are stay at home mom's like myself. We deal with so much that it's crazy and no one gives credit to us or give a helping hand.
Teachers are another that do not get credit or enough money to deal with what they do on a daily basis.

Wake up

All these kids want to march for gun control but yet none of them ever want to help the kid that is getting picked on in school. Teachers overlook this problem as well. I've seen this myself at the high school I went to.
(Being 18 and pregnant in 12th grade says it all) if you want to stop these shootings in school THEN STOP PICKING ON KIDS THAT DIFFERENT THEN YOU. Stop picking on a kid because they don't fit your mold.

Oh...hi

I know I haven't made a blog post in awhile. I will get better at this I swear! But I just want to comment on something related to recent events in Florida.

Has anyone yet to notice that this younger generation just has no appreciation for life at all. They go around robbing, shooting,etc. Common sense apparently has died with my generation. Stop taking guns away from children and instead teach them what it means if you shoot someone or something. Teach them that there are other nonlethal ways to get their frustrations out. And that there is a difference in video games and in life.
You can say "that's a bunch of bullshit" but actually, it's not! My husband and I taught my son what it means to shoot something and explained to him that it's the same when shooting someone and that he should never do so unless he is in danger. That sweet boy has yet to try to pick up his daddy's gun. It's all in how you teach them.

Haha

You know your a boy mom when you have to edit out a part of the video where they start hitting and whining at each other...

Anyway,
I saw a Facebook post earlier about a mom trying to make excuses for not spanking her kids. Look, if your kids are screaming in the middle if the store....you pop that ass! Regardless if they are "empathetic " and btw your son was probably screaming because he was making fun of his sister and is probably the reason she lost her balloon to begin with. And no, the woman in the other line had no right to say  what she did but you should have said something to her and not rant about her on Facebook!!!!

I know that I am bad about paying attention to my phone or just handing my phone to my son just to shut him up about some games or what not but I definitely do not tolerate the screaming in the store. That's another thing...everyone hides behind a damn computer or phone and want to pretend to be bad but in reality they aren't. I will say this though...

TO ALL STRUGGLING MOMS: it is going to be okay. Let your children be children.dint force them to grow up too fast and for gods sake if they throw a fit...SPANK THEIR ASS

Get out of the stone age!

Those husbands who think that the word wife simply means Wash Iron Fuck Etc seriously needs to get the hell out of the stone age and get with the modern times.most housewives like me do not want to wait on our men and children twenty four hours a day.we have hobbies that we also enjoy as well.our lives do not revolve around waiting on you hand and foot.
I realize that some might just be offended by this post but I really don't care.this is my blog and my ranting post so just get over it.
Yes, women can have kids and we absolutely love them to death.i would not take mine for granted but we all have those moments where we are over our limits.take yesterday for instance....it was my birthday but what was I doing? Cleaning up the mess that my husband made while throwing a temper tantrum over a stupid video game.yeah.....happy freaking birthday to me....whoo.....not.

Being a mom/being a disabled mom

Motherhood is hard work.i am not going to lie to you on that.but when you have a disability that makes it unsafe to pick up your child.try having a disability that makes you forget more easily then a elderly person with dementia or spacing out in the middle of your child talking to you about something that excites them.or even worse...actually having a seizure in front of your child.Being a mother is not easy but being a mother that has epilepsy or some other life changing disability just makes motherhood a thousand times worse.
I would not change anything about my kids or about being their mother .I just have to work at it much harder then my friends or anyone I am related to.

Choices

If you had a choice in taking care of your husband first and then your kids....which would you do?

I do not know about you but for me it depends on the situation.mosy of the times your husband can fix his own plate of food and he can do his own things especially if you are sick or have children who need special care. I hate to say it because if you get in the habit of taking care of the husband first then he is going to expect it.then if you get sick,if the kids get sick then he will continue to expect himself to be put first.all I can say is for him to sucks it up. My kids come first and that's the bottom line.....in my house anyway.

Admitting....

Ok, I admit it....I let myself go.i am also not the best house keeper either.i am also lazy at times.but I love my kids.i would do anything for them.even if I do feed them fast food and things.we all do it.we all have done it at least once.so admit it....how many times you have done something that you said you weren't going to do....let me know in the comments.

Gay children....

Ok,this is an issue that I've seen and heard and read about on the internet.if your child comes up to you and tells you that they might be gay.......what would your first reaction be?

If you said that you would disown that child then you are a shitty parent.in that moment your child really needs you because they are at their most scared,co,fused and vulnerable moment and you just verbally slapped them in the face by disowning them right then.they are your children.they are not something you buy and then return when something malfunctions.it doesn't work that way.if you become a parent then you are that child's mother or father forever.you do not get to decide when to love your child.

Now...if your answer was that you would support them the yay! A parent should help their children throughout their life even if they came to you in their adult years and asked you this question.

Children will always be our children even when they grow up and have children of their own.you cannot just turn off that kind of love.it just isn't possible.

Discipline!

Regardless of what you have been told,children need discipline.if they do something that you, as their parent, tell them not to then they should have punishment for it.they need to learn that once boundaries are set then they need to follow them.maybe not follow them exactly but close enough.
I have a son who loves cell phones.but the only way he can get a new one is one of two ways:1.he breaks one of the phones he has or 2.he behaves for at least a week or two.for his reward he can choose either another phone or a portable charger to go with it.depending on our price range at the time.
Do I believe in spanking? Yes I do.it is the best and quickest form of punishment a parent can do.I don't do the whole going to bed hungry thing.my husband is gone mostly as he is in college so the punishments fall on me.
I love my kids and I do not want to see them as theives or in jail for disrespecting a cop or something.I may be considered old-fashioned by today's standards but honestly your opinion doesn't matter to me.

Can you handle it?

I hear stories about women wanting to have children but if they find out that these children have any kind of disability then they give the child away.that is heartbreaking! Let me tell you that in my household I have to wear glasses,and deal with epilepsy,my husband wears glasses and has glaucoma and my eldest son has had to have cataract surgery and shunt surgery and he is five years old now.my youngest son is only three months old and just had his first surgery a few weeks ago.he has cataracts as well.
My entire family has disabilities but I am not ashamed of either of my boys.I know that they are different then most their age and will possibly be picked on later in life but I would not change them for anything.I love them both.of you do not want a child even though he or she has disabilities then you are not ready to become a parent.a real mother will love her children regardless.
A real mother does what is best for her children.that includes accommodate for their disabilities and still love them with all her heart.of you cannot handle it then please, don't reproduce.

Ready to be a mother?

So you think you want to have kids and you have had the discussion with your partner or boyfriend and let's say that he is on board so what is next?
Well,when you do get pregnant,you will have to deal with 1.wierd urges 2.heartburn of some kind 3.swollen ankles 4.sore back 5.restless sleep 6.watching your body gain weight 7. Relentless kicking from inside your body 8.labor pains 9.recovery which is painful.
So are you ready now? You will also deal with never having personal space anymore,never pee alone anymore, never get to fully sit down and eat.
But before you start freaking out.you will get the joy of holding a sweet baby fall asleep on you.the sweet moments when they are older and when they tell you they love you and awesome things like that.

Being a mother is the most stressful yet loving job there is out there.❤